Things To Talk About With Your Girlfriend (With 15 tips)

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How to Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone

Five Parts:

Quality conversation is crucial for relationship success.Even in this day and age of texting and social media, 87% of teens still talk to their significant other on the phone.The extra effort of a phone call can show a girl that you really are interested and make her feel wanted. Whether you are calling your long-term girlfriend or a cutie you just met, use these phone tips for conversations that will make her swoon.


Conversation Help

Choosing a Time and Place to Call

  1. Work around her schedule.Arrange a time to chat over text, or wait to call until you think she will be free. Don’t inconvenience her or make her choose between you and her friends or family. Call after drama club, soccer practice, her shift at the coffee shop, or family dinner.
    • Text her a few hours before you want to talk:Hey, will you be free to chat tonight?orCan I call you at 7?Be flexible and work out a mutually convenient time.
      If she's busy:
      Don't:get irritated or sullen.
      Do:sayHow about tomorrow night?orGood luck on your midterm! Talk this weekend?
  2. Call from a quiet, private place.Girls will be more open and honest with you if they know no one can overhear your conversation. Don’t call when you are hanging out with other people, and don’t put her on speaker phone without her permission.
  3. Give her your undivided attention.She is giving you the gift of her time, and you should do the same. Most young people believe that multitasking takes away from conversation.Let her know that her conversation is the most important thing in the world. Don’t text, chat online, watch TV, or talk to other people while you are talking with your girlfriend.

Making Small Talk

  1. Greet her cheerfully.Emotions are contagious.If you sound friendly and eager to talk, she will likely respond in the same way. When she answers the phone, greet her in a way that opens up the conversation and tells her you want to listen. Use words that are appropriate for how close you are:
    • Hey! How's my girl doing?
    • Hi beautiful! How was your day?
    • I’ve been looking forward to hearing your voice all day! What have you been up to?
  2. Leave a sweet voicemail.If she doesn't answer and your call goes to voicemail, leave her a short and cute message. She will appreciate that you were thinking of her and enjoy hearing your voice.
    • If you have been dating for a while, you can say:Just calling to tell you I love you!
    • If you are in a new relationship, leave a more casual voicemail:I just wanted to see how you're doing! I miss you!
    • Let her know the best time to call you back, so you don't wind up in a game of telephone tag:I'll be home from soccer practice at 7. Maybe talk to you then?
  3. Warm up with casual conversation.People are social animals and are hardwired to crave small talk with strangers.Small talk creates a sense of connection as people get to know one another. Even superficial conversation can be meaningful in new relationships. Stick to easy topics that will put her at ease:
  4. Compliment her.Let her know you enjoy her conversation and her company. Without coming on too strong, say things that will encourage her to open up to you:
    • You tell the best stories!
    • That’s hilarious!
    • I’m dying to hear what happened next!
    • You are so easy to talk to.
      Don't:repeat the same generic compliments every conversation.
      Do:sayI love how excited you get talking about __.

Keeping the Conversation Going

  1. Let the conversation develop naturally.If you two have chemistry, small talk will flow into deeper conversation. Allow yourself to shift from casual banter to more personal subjects. Take advantage of openings that allow you to get to know each other better:
    • I take guitar lessons too! Why did you pick guitar over all the other instruments in the world?
    • You get your license in three months? Where would you go if you had a car?
    • School break is only two weeks away! Where are you going for the holidays?
  2. Be emotionally open.She will only be as honest and revealing as you are. Most people don’t express their true feelings because they fear rejection, not because they aren’t interested.If you tell her know how much she means to you, she will feel safe to tell you the same.
    • Every time I see you my world lights up.
    • You are the most beautiful girl in this city.
    • I feel like you understand me better than anyone else.
  3. Ask open-ended questions.Frame questions so your girlfriend feels free to elaborate, provide backstory, and express feelings. Don’t stall the conversation with questions that she will likely answer with just yes or no.
    Don't:start with leading phrases likeI bet you...orYou must have...
    Do:useHow...,Why..., andWhat...openers.
  4. Avoid topics that stall conversation.You want to be honest with your girlfriend, but you don’t want to offend her or make her feel uncomfortable. Gauge her enthusiasm throughout the conversation. If she sounds excited about a topic, explore it more. If she becomes quiet or unsure and saysI don’t know,MaybeorI guessa lot, steer the conversation to more enjoyable territory.
    • Identify sensitive subjects as you get to know your girlfriend better and stay clear. You want your conversations to be positive experiences. Dredging up bad memories (her parents’ divorce, an ex-boyfriend, her deceased grandmother) is not a shortcut to intimacy. Let her know she can tell you anything, but don’t stir up unhappy emotions deliberately.
    • Coming on too strong may scare her off. Don’t sound obsessed or overly needy. Don’t make comments about her body that are too forward and that she would not appreciate.
      Don't:be afraid to open up about your own emotions and life experiences.
      Do:pay attention to her comfort level, and adjust for future conversations.
  5. Make plans about your future.Making plans together, whether for a night out or for a lifetime, creates closeness in a couple. Discuss where you would live and travel if you could go anywhere, what kind of dog you want, or what your dream home looks like. Have fun and use your imagination. Keep the conversation light and flirty: you don’t need to come up with a road map for your lives. Tell your girlfriend how much you look forward to your adventures together.
    Don't:start talking about marriage or moving in together before the topic has come up in person.
    Do:talk about your future in a playful way.

Saying Goodbye

  1. End the conversation before you lose steam.It is always better to say goodbye while you still have things to stay to one another. You will look forward to your next conversation. Suggest what you can talk about on your next phone call.
  2. Tell her you enjoyed talking.Let her know she is special and you appreciate her conversation. She will be more inclined to call you if she knows you want to hear her voice.
    • I look forward to chatting with you soon! Call me anytime.
    • I’ll be thinking of your sweet voice all night.
    • Don’t be a stranger.
    • I’ll text you tomorrow morning!

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  • Don’t try too hard to impress her. You don’t want to sound arrogant or insecure.
  • Don’t talk about other girls to make her jealous. She will see through the game.
  • Talk in a confident, calm and flirty voice the whole time on the phone.
  • Make sure you have plenty of minutes on your phone before you call. You don’t want to get cut off at an important moment in the conversation, or have her think you hung up on her.
  • Make sure your conversation doesn't get too dull. This isn’t a phone call with your grandmother.
  • Don’t lose your patience or try to pick fights on the phone. She will run from drama.
  • Respect her family and her culture.
  • Plan out what you would say before you call her.

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